Etiquette Analysis: Doors
In early edition etiquette books, men are advised to open doors for women. Emily Post states the following:
“When she rises to leave, he must get up instantly and stand for as long as she stands (no matter how long that is) and then go with her as far as the door, which he holds open for her.” - Emily Post (1945), Etiquette, 20.
I am a fan of men opening doors for me, though I know many women do not feel the same way, an opinion I thoroughly respect! In today’s world, I like to believe that a man opening a door ahead of a woman is not indicative of thinking women are incapable of opening a door themselves but rather, just a courteous action. Additionally, I think we should open doors for others, regardless of gender, even for strangers. It’s just a thoughtful thing to do. And if someone opens a door for you, don’t forget to say thank you!
But have you ever thought of who enters a revolving door first? Probably not but after the question arose in a book I was reading, I did a little more research on the topic.
According to Peggy Post, in a 2002 Good Housekeeping post, this is the proper etiquette regarding revolving doors:
“Traditionally, a man enters first. The thinking is that the male of the species, being physically stronger, should have an easier time starting the door spinning.”
The concept of a man entering a revolving door because they are physically more capable of starting a revolving door does bother me. I would be lying if I said I have never struggled with a revolving door - I have but a push from behind is just as effective as a push ahead of me.
I say regardless of the type of door you’re walking through, help the people around you. But furthermore, in the midst of COVID, I’m happy to have someone else touch the germy handles of doors on my behalf!