“When eaten at the table they are peeled, then broken as needed into small pieces and eaten with the fingers” Amy Vanderbilt (1952). Everyday Etiquette, 22.

Do not let them have this feeling of accomplishment. Announce merrily, “Oh, let’s leave things for a minute,” and then go with them yourself, into the living room for coffee. An hour later, as the post dinner stupor sets in, you can then say, with equal graciousness “Well, I suppose we ought to get to those dishes” and accept the help offered. Someone who does not volunteer may then be told sweetly “Will you look after the children for us while we clean up?”” Judith Martin (1982). Miss Manner’s Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior, 144.

“If you’re simply not interested in the person you’ve met, be polite and considerate of his feelings… say kindly but firmly something like “I’ve enjoyed meeting you very much. It was nice of you to take the time for lunch but I must be going now.” If he suggests getting together again and you know you don’t want to, say so, but as kindly as possible. Remember, you are rejecting the person…. It is far kinder to be honest than to raise the hopes of someone you have no intention of having a relationship with.” Amy Vanderbilt (1995). Complete Book of Etiquette, 69-70.

“A first rule for behavior in company is ‘Try to do and say only that which will be agreeable to others.’”Emily Post (1945). Etiquette, 41.