“May candles ever be lighted on a dining table in the daytime? A.V.L. Maplewood, New York No, expect late in the aldy and if the curtains are drawn. Candles placed on the table to be lighted at a later hour, as the tea or reception wears on, should have their wicks charred” - Amy Vanderbilt, 1952, pg. 67

“A hostess should be less elaborately dressed than her guests and her clothes may be more informal in type. For example, she would wear any distinctly at-home dress that could not possibly be worn on the street when she is giving a cocktail party or a tea to which other people come in street clothes” - Emily Post, Etiquette 1945, pg. 467

“In America it is customary for a man to walk on the curb side when accompanying a lady on the street, but the rule is not so hard and fast as it used to be” - Amy Vanderbilt, 1952, pg. 30

“You may or may not - as you wish - draw a line through the engraved name if the message is signed informally with a Christian name.” - Amy Vanderbilt (1952), Amy Vanderbilt’s Everyday Etiquette, 162.

“All the rules of table manners are made to avoid ugliness. To let anyone see what you have in your mouth is repulsive; to make a noise is to suggest an animal; to make a mess is disgusting.”

“Once is effective; twice is boring” Emily Post, Etiquette 1945, pg. 42

“Perfect your waves (you know your ‘professional wave’, your ‘zoom-meeting wave’, your ‘I-love-you-Grandma wave, your ‘I haven’t-seen-you-and-I’m-trying-so-hard-not-to-hug-you wave’) and use your tone of voice to match the occasion.” emilypost.com

“When gentlemen are introduced to each other, they always shake hands. When a gentleman is introduced to a lady, she generally smiles, bows slightly, and says, ‘How do you!’ Strictly speaking, it is her place to offer her hand or not, as she chooses; but if he puts out his hand, she of course gives him hers. Nothing could be more ill-bred than to treat any spontaneous friendliness curtly.” Emily Post (1945), Etiquette, 9.

“If you are warmly greeted by someone whose name you can’t recall, say something harmless such as, ‘Nice to see you’ or ‘You’re looking well.’ Then while looking quite attentive, let the other person do the talking until he or she gives you a clue to his identity. Your own expression should always indicate that you remember him well and favorably.” - Amy Vanderbilt 1952

“When she rises to leave, he must get up instantly and stand for as long as she stands (no matter how long that is) and then go with her as far as the door, which he holds open for her.” - Emily Post (1945), Etiquette, 20.